I'd been stressed about it for a while. I asked for opinions, and, as expected, the answers revealed more about the respondents than they did anything to resolve the issue.
I was starting to cry at odd moments. It's a tough week, and the confusion was making it worse.
Then, I reconnected with a helper-bee from years ago. She's in a new job, but her willingness to fix things hasn't changed a bit. I explained the problem, after swearing her to secrecy. We were discussing solutions when, in an aside, she mentioned me that what I thought was a problem was actually viewed as a positive by the other side.
The issue was in my head. Not unusual for me, but startling nonetheless.
I started to cry. I thanked my old acquaintance for providing relief, unwitting relief but relief all the same.
She laughed, and thanked me for thanking her. She said I made her day.
She has no idea how important she was to mine.