My mornings consist of Wordle, Strands, Spelling Bee (the first try), and AITAH clickbait that my phone serves up. The stories are mostly about adult children causing familial troubles leading to the Original Poster (OP) asking the internet Am I The Asshole?
I spent today in serious conversation with two intelligent, thoughtful, loving adults who happen to be my offspring. None of us were assholes.
Instead, they offered advice, ideas, consolation, information, and their different perspectives. There was no judging. There was respect for individual differences, all options are still under consideration.
And that is because we all agree on two fundamental points of reference.
We do not like to wait and this waiting is particularly unconscionable.
We like information and we have none because we are waiting.
Alternative plans have been suggested and agreed upon. Laughter has ensued. Nothing has changed except our outlook, and that happened because there are two adult children in the mix and those children speak honestly, from their hearts.
I am really glad that I don't have to ask the internet if my kids are rotten or if it's all my fault.
I am a very lucky person.
Having brilliant, funny, kind adult children is so good. And the brilliant, funny, kind grandchildren appear to be on their way to being likewise. I feel good about our future, whatever it may bring. The near future will bring more time spent with these amazing humans.
ReplyDeleteYou and I are so lucky to have these amazing humans in our lives. They do have the power to change the world.
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