"If you always do what interests you, at least one person is pleased." (Katherine Hepburn)
Wednesday, February 10, 2021
I Know Why He Did It
Tuesday, January 19, 2021
One Last Day
It's been four full years since he started talking about American carnage.
That's all it took to bring our democracy perilously close to its knees. Members of Congress did not vote to certify the election of the next President of the United States. One of those votes they wanted to discount was mine.
I take umbrage with this.
I've always been willing to do some of the heavy lifting required to maintain our democratic norms. I've protested and voted and written and recruited and advocated and made my presence and my opinions known. Nobody elected by someone in Nebraska has the right to say that my vote does not matter. I've done the work (and even if I hadn't); I get to speak
Of course, by saying that I am assuming that we are dealing with the same set of facts. Living here in the real world, I often forget that there are a disturbingly large number of individuals who barely believe that the earth is round.
And, they get to vote. Some of them get to vote in Congress.
And then there are the Jamie Raskins of the world, who are unwilling to lose our republic and who are willing to put personal grief aside to work toward that end. That's where I'm focusing my energy today, on the content of his character to stiffen my spine and strengthen my resolve to keep the pressure on, to hold those responsible accountable for their actions, to do what I can to insure than this will not happen again.
That's a fitting way to spend the last day of the worst presidency in our history.
Friday, January 15, 2021
To My Grandchildren, Part Two
Thursday, January 14, 2021
Peace
Wednesday, January 13, 2021
It Was There - We Didn't See It
In the early 2000's Big Cuter walked down the Capitol steps, fuming. He phoned home from those steps, bemoaning the fact that his interview in the office of Republican Representative Darryl Issa had devolved into a How could you have worked for this radical leftist last summer (San Francisco Supervisor Mark Leno) rather than an exploration of what he could offer this man's constituents.
He went in for a job interview and found himself skewered on the spit of partisan politics. It was surprising, odd, out of the ordinary, not at all what he (or his parents or the mutual friend who arranged the meeting) thought would happen.
"He didn't listen, Mom. He just kept shoving more and more paper in front of me, trying to prove his point."
We didn't recognize it then, but in retrospect it seems like a very early and very clear sign of the American divide. I'm right, you're wrong, and there's nothing we can gain by sharing a space.
It's frightening.
I have a dear friend on the other side of the political spectrum. We disagree about everything except kindness and respect. As she often says, "I'm a Republican. I'm not crazy."
I yearn for the days when that statement was not met with skepticism, when it was acceptable for people of good will and kind hearts to be members of the GOP. I wonder when those days were. They obviously weren't there when my kid wanted to do constituent service for all the voters, not just the ones whose views aligned with Issa's.
This is America. Maybe it's always been 74 million Americans looking for a cult leader to show them the way to the Promised Land. It certainly was this American at the dawn of the century in an office in the Capitol. My son was there.
Tuesday, January 12, 2021
Sad
Monday, January 11, 2021
To My Grandchildren
Jan 10, 2021 (the weekend after the Capitol was breached)
It's important that you know how it feels to be alive right now, in the midst of an insurrection, the first battle of which was fought in our Capitol - inside the actual building - on January 6, 2021. Right now, domestic terrorists are mobilizing for another battle on January 17th, and another on Inauguration Day, January 20th.
Why, you may wonder, would the insurgents announce their plans in advance? It seems kind of silly. If the people in charge know you are coming, won't they be prepared to rebuff you, to repel you, to arrest and imprison you for violating the laws of the land? But these terrorists knew that the main man in charge was on their side. They could see no security presence, the way BLM marchers saw it when a photo op seemed the correct response to a nation in pain.
They were unprepared. They were absent. I couldn't understand it.
I kept saying, "Where are the police?" (Okay, I was screaming..... until Grampa told me to tone it down..... he agreed, but I was hurting his ears.)
It was impossible (for me, at least) to conjure up any scenario that did not include an immediate police presence once those sworn to serve and protect noticed that thousands of lunatics were racing up the Capitol steps. It was hard to watch those in charge of safety and security allowing this to go on without mounting a response.
The National Guards of neighboring states could have been called up by the sitting president, but he and his family were having fun watching the show on television.
No, that is not what he should have been doing.
Nor should he have called them patriots.
Nor should he have said that we love you.
The hole this created in my heart is expanding, days later. The American Presidency is a sacred space and this man is defiling it. His supporters are trying to make this about free speech (the social media platforms that pandered to his excesses finally permanently banned him) and unity and reconciliation, but I'm not interested in that.
I and those who agree with me have been in pain for four years. We never staged a coup.
These are not patriots. They and he are fomenting and participating in a civil war. The flag of the secessionist states was carried up the stairway and flew in the United States' Capitol. The more video we watched the more terrified I became. These and their ilk showed up on the steps of the Michigan state capital, with no consequences. They plotted to kidnap and kill a governor. They left bombs in their wake on Wednesday.
I feel no desire or need or compulsion or sense of duty pushing me to accepting these folk back into the fold. They must be identified and punished, not, as they were, escorted peacefully out the door. Behaviors have consequences; your parents taught you that when you were very small. If there are no consequences for these actions then what will stop them from happening again and again and again.
If you drew on the wallpaper and no one cared, how many unadorned spaces would there be in your house right now? If your parents said no more cookies but watched you put them in your mouth, how long would it take for your siblings to join your fun?
Allowing this to stand without repercussions can only harm our democracy.
The Capitol Steps..... the phrase itself has majesty and dignity. A reporter holds a microphone and says "I'm standing on the steps of our nation's capital" and I get a little frisson of connection to our Republic. It's the home of democracy in action. It's unruly and amusing and ponderous but it's often profound. Barbara Jordan speaking at Richard Nixon's impeachment is an example of that.
There are those who say that impeachment or invoking the 25th Amendment are not necessary; the man leaves the building in a few days.
There are those of us who remember Hugo Chavez, who was removed then ran again and won and then created a dictatorship. There are those of us who believe that you don't hand a 4 year old the nuclear codes. There are those of us who think that inciting insurrection must have been somewhere in the framers' minds when they wrote about removing an unfit person from the highest office in the land, and who are absolutely horrified that any elected official could disagree.
And I am so sad, so despondent, so disheartened when I hear members of the Congress finding room to wiggle away from doing their duty.
Yet they do, despite the fact that they swore an oath to preserve, protect, and defend the Constitution of the United States. I took that oath, solemnly and seriously, twenty some years ago, on the local level, in a job that served less than 15,000 souls. The fact that men and women who have risen to the highest ranks of our governance can be so cavalier with the truth, with their responsibilities, with their obligations to you and your children and your grandchildren.... well, that just makes me want to....
yell
cry
tremble with fear.
And then I remember that this is a democracy. My voice can and should be heard. So I will call my representatives. I'll write a letter to the editor of the local paper. I'll call out those who equate terrorism with protest. I will not be silent. I will not let them win.... not without knowing how I stand.
Actions like these will make me marginally less anxious. I'm still very worried. The political ramifications are just beginning to be played out. Tomorrow is Monday. I don't know how I'll feel then.
Friday, January 8, 2021
I Thought I Was Done With This
Thursday, January 7, 2021
I Woke Up So Happy
Georgia has two Democratic Senators, one of whom sets a new bar for nice, Jewish boys. Queen T had a good thing happen at work. Virtual Garden Club with the 5th grade was a rousing success. TBG and I settled down to watch the Joint Session of Congress do the people's business.
And then all hell broke loose.
Nothing I wrote yesterday seems relevant. My memories, my clean closets, by generalized angst are small change compared to what streamed across my television screen all day.
My plaintive "Where are the police?" was met with my son's "C'mon, Mom, these are white people."
I've been scared all day. My house has never been cleaner..... it was the only thing I could think to do with myself as I watched and listened and fretted and ranted.
I felt less anxious when the Senate and the House announced that they would convene tonight. I relaxed even further when the Leaders said they would stay all night and finish the people's business.
I felt a bit of surprise when Kelly Loeffler withdrew her objection to Georgia's electors; I smiled when her colleagues applauded. Cory Booker's passion raised goose bumps. Big Cuter's Twitter feed tells him that some Cabinet members are discussing the 25th Amendment.
I don't know how I feel.
It's a lot like when I got shot. One moment I was laughing about accessories. The next there was blood dripping down the front of my favorite jeans. It's a lot to absorb all at once.
Friday, December 4, 2020
Democracy In (in)Action
My junior Senator was sworn in yesterday. Standing by his side was his wife, my former Representative. It was a happy moment, a deeply personal moment, a step in the right direction at a time when the whole thing seems to be going off the rails.
Plus there was my senior Senator's purple wig, worn in solidarity with those women who are staying home, away from salons, and are reluctant to show their un-dyed selves in public. She's been wearing various colored wigs on the Senate floor since Pandemica began.
That's being an adult. That's democracy. It's not exactly what I want it to be, but it's what we've got and what we have to work with. I'll still be writing letters and calling and filling out the forms at senate.gov, but I know that there will be a receptive ear at the other end.
Unlike the current incumbent, who seems hell bent on destroying our democracy. That's not a surprise. The most democratic of functions, the election, broke his brain. He is the living, breathing description of Cognitive Dissonance. He absolutely cannot accept that he lost, and that everyone knows that he lost. That's our reality; we are inured to it.
But the enablers in the Republican party are another matter entirely. They are not all emotionally crippled. Some of them must still believe in facts. On the local level, Secretaries of State and county election officials understand that this attack is on more than our democracy; it is on our fellow citizens. Have the Republican members of Congress forgotten that it is those citizens who elected them?
Greta Hutchinson ran the local elections for as long as I or anyone else could remember. G'ma and she were fast friends; G'ma always a poll worker, keeping her ear to the ground. Nothing went on that Greta didn't know about. No one dared make a false move; Greta was fierce. And everyone knew her.
That was true on mid-century Long Island and it's true in 21st century Tucson. F. Ann Rodriguez and Katie Hobbs are visible presences, reassuring and informing and confirming and not being swayed by outlandish claims. In Chicago, we knew the precinct captain as a presence all year long; when it came time to vote and his minions rang the bell to ask if I needed help getting to the polling place, it seemed like neighbor helping neighbor.
These are real people doing real jobs and doing them well. That's anathema to the Trumps. I get that. But what about the rest of those calling themselves Republicans?
There is no excuse for allowing this insanity to continue. Someone has to speak out, and speak loudly and clearly while doing so.
Monday, November 30, 2020
He's Breaking America
On some level, I suppose it's not his fault. On some level, this is a tragic opera playing out in 3 acts - running, Presidenting, the aftermath.
He can't help himself. His father ruined him and his mother didn't intervene. Read Mary Trump's analysis of his psychology if you want to see it play out. He watched his older brother crumble under the strain. He would survive.
If there is a positive piece of his character it is that will to survive.
But underneath, he has no substance. Winning is the only thing. There's no love, unless it's salacious (cf how he can't keep his hands off Ivanka). There is no empathy, because there is no one who matters except himself. There is no honesty, because reality cannot compete with the horror of loss.
And so, the current incumbent is making plans to break America.
It's because his brain is breaking, unable to conceive of losing, of disappointing his father, of not living up to his gold-plated self image. There is no way that he can rationalize losing so publicly, so overwhelmingly, so decisively.
After all, he himself declared that 306 electoral votes was a landslide.
And so he's promoting fraud and conspiracy and magic voting machines that commune with the dead. Huge numbers of his supporters believe him. He's tapping with a heavy hammer against the very foundation of our democracy - the people rule.
Fortunately, the courts have stood up against this onslaught. The deciders have used words like laughable and without merit and come on, now! Those of us on the outside looking in can laugh, along with Neil Katyal. The schadenfreude is titillating; I feel it up and down my spine.
But the reality is that much of America believes that the election was rigged, was unfair, that Joe Biden will be sworn in but he won't really be President. Trump wants to be sure that Biden doesn't get credit for the vaccine - It was ME! - even though Pfizer wanted nothing to do with him, or Operation Warp Speed.
And now Trump is talking about launching his 2024 campaign on Inauguration Day.
I'm letting that sentence sit there, because it sits in the middle of my heart, in just that way. On a day when the country is supposed to bind the wounds opened by the election, the orange menace will drive a stake into the soul of the nation.
Competing inaugurations? Will the networks cover the Trump event? Will it make it into the newspapers? Will it be broadcast or streamed?
I had hoped for a Trump free future, one where America, having been tested and survived, could move on and build back better. Instead, the bad man (FlapJilll's term) seems determined to worm his way back into my consciousness, even if his antics are now the third or fourth story on the national news.
I was scared when armed militia were allowed to invade the Michigan State House. I'm terrified now that Trump's future plans are spilling out onto America's lap.
Monday, November 23, 2020
These Dates
November 22nd..... November 23rd.... November 24th and 25th and the rest of what would have been Thanksgiving but instead was filled with mourning.
President and Mrs. Kennedy deplaned in the morning and were covered in blood by the afternoon. Little kids were happy that school was cancelled; the rest of the world was stunned. It was dreary and cold and nobody's parents wanted to drive anywhere fun.
The black and white images on the television felt oddly appropriate; bright colors would have interefered with the sadness.
And there was so much sadness.
I knew little of The Bay of Pigs or our initial forays into Vietnam. I knew that the President was elegant and handsome and smart because he went to Harvard. I knew he was brave because I read PT-109 and I believed every single word of it. I knew he saved us from nuclear destruction by Russia, via Cuba. I knew he loved America and would work to keep me safe.
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I knew Jackie (because she was always Jackie) from her televised White House tour and her pill box hats. I knew about John-John and Caroline and Hyannisport and all those other Kennedy's.
That I was going to lose all that took the weekend to sink in. I remember being in the driveway, hoping a neighbor would show up and play something.... anything.... to make the sadness go away. Inside, the tv showed the caisson rolling down Pennsylvania Avenue. Outside, it was grey and cold and sad.
It's still sad, today.
Friday, November 13, 2020
Georgia
I have sent my $3 where I thought it would do the most good. TBG did the same. I don't answer the GOTV calls myself, so I won't make them. But postcards and letters are fun to do, and I've done lots.
Stay safe this weekend. Wear your mask. Stay home. Write some postcards.
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Georgia is hosting elections both in its regularly scheduled Senate race and in a special election for its other Senate seat due to a resignation last year. Democrat Jon Ossoff will face off against Republican Sen. David Perdue. (Perdue needs to go and keep going) In the Special election, Democrat Raphael Warnock will face off against Republican Sen. Kelly Loeffler.
DONATIONS
Congressional Black Caucus PAC
Asian-Americans Advancing Justice-Atlanta, which is mobilizing voters and protecting voting rights virtually.
The New Georgia Project registers and mobilizes young voters from diverse backgrounds.
SisterSong, an Atlanta-based women of color reproductive justice collective, is organizing women of color, trans women, and other marginalized women for these races.
PHONEBANKING
If you want to phone bank these are Daily Kos links Hosted by Jon Ossoff for Senate and Hosted by Warnock for Georgia
Will you make remote phone calls for Democrat Jon Ossoff? Click to sign up.
Will you make remote calls for Democrat Raphael Warnock? Click to sign up.
POSTCARDS-for many you need to buy your own postcards. Cheap on Amazon.
Flip the West - Warnock & Ossoff Runoff Election
https://tinyurl.com/runoff-ga
Westside Democratic HQ - Warnock & Ossoff Runoff
https://tinyurl.com/westside-runoff
Grassroots Democrats HQ - Warnock & Ossoff Runoff
https://tinyurl.com/georgia-runoff
Postcards to Voters - Warnock & Ossoff Runoff Election
www.postcardstovoters.org
Georgia Postcarding Project - Warnock & Ossoff Runoff not set up yet-soon
https://www.gapostcard.org/
Postcards to Swing States - Warnock & Ossoff Runoff
https://postcardstoswingstates.com
Vote Forward - Warnock & Ossoff Letter Writing
https://votefwd.org
Sierra Club - Warnock & Ossoff Letter Writing
https://tinyurl.com/Sierra-runoff
Write postcards encouraging recent high school grads in GA to register, via the Civics Center:
https://tinyurl.com/civics-register
Tuesday, November 10, 2020
Pictures, Because I'm Out of Words
I'm having trouble with words. I have been scouring my brain for synonyms - joy is being grossly over used.
So I'm sharing pictures today because my brain is on a steady repeat of Happy Happy Joy Joy.
I'd forgotten what it felt like to smile without the nagging thought of the orange menace in the back of my mind. Now, I can watch the hummingbird baby and grown up play tag between the crepe myrtles.... and there's nothing nudging me. Nothing at all.
Firstl, look at this one of Kamala Harris and Ruby Bridges. We are all the product of those who came before.
And there's this one, which stopped me in my no-longer-doom-scrolling-so-what-should-I-call-it for several minutes. That's a lot of white men.
Monday, November 9, 2020
It Was A Night For Little Girls
Friday, November 6, 2020
The Times, They Are A'Changing
Anyone have a good recommendation for someone who knows how to cultivate marijuana plants? I will of course be waiting till all legal proceedings are finalized, but I'd definitely like to be first in line for a consultation. Interested in planting in my backyard whatever I am legally allowed.
As of this writing, there are 29 comments, referring her to garden groups with the sub-threads she's seeking, offering personal experiences, sharing photos.
As Mary McCarthy wrote, who'd a thunk it?
A woman of color will sit one heartbeat away from the most powerful office in the world and my upper middle class, white, suburban moms and retirees community is having a great time talking about weed.
2020.... you continue to surprise.
Thursday, November 5, 2020
I Knew It, But...
Tuesday, November 3, 2020
The Day Before.... The Day Of.....
I have What to Expect on Election Night podcasting on my phone, which is sitting on my desk next to Lenore the Lenovo. I'm trying to distract myself by writing this post, but my brain is on a one lane, no u-turn road.
My dreams have been incredibly vivid and confusing and sticking with me through the morning.
I'm trying to convince my stomach to accept food. The hard boiled egg with horseradish aioli is talking back to me. I don't think it's the egg. I think it's the election.
I listened to the 538 podcast culling the results of the final, before the election, polls. They started out by saying that Biden has a 90% chance of winning, Dems have a 76% chance of taking the Senate, and there's a 94% chance that Dems will retain control of the House. That was one sentence. They spent the next 29 minutes making me nervous about those stats.
What to Expect just told me that very few concerns have been raised by callers to their HelpLine; most calls are about where and how to vote. They're extolling the virtues of their Voter Protection program. They feel confident.
Talking heads are calling Trump's outrageous statements a sign of desperation, noise, nonsense...... but Bill Barr is still at DOJ.
I can't decide if watching people talk about it is better than living in my head with it.
I'm very grateful to my family group text for an hour or so spent considering the difficulties of teaching in/on/at to non-English speakers. Brother's diagram was helpful
Opinions - on the ice cream not the election! - are welcomed below.
Anything. Anything at all to distract me.
These are going to be the longest hours of my life.
Friday, October 23, 2020
The Debate
I watched the first one, where, as one focus group member said, our President acted like a deranged crackhead.
I flipped my eyes over to TBG watching Joe answer questions on the big screen while I watched Savannah Guthrie scold our President on my phone as I made dinner. Every giggle from me led to an explanation for my sweetie on the couch. All the best moments were replayed later for his amusement, but it was fun to share.
And so tonight we have a debate with a mute button and a strong, female moderator. Our President is in full melt down mode as he's holding superspreader events all over the country. Joe Biden sent his best surrogate to a parking lot in Philadelphia while he holed up for debate prep.
Our President doesn't need to prepare. His aides, looking for post-debacle employment, are heard cautioning him to be measured and stick to the script. That, of course, would take some preparation, if not a character transplant. It's unnecessary. He knows where he's going - China and Hunter, with a dash of 33,000 emails on the side.
The Biden campaign has effectively recast Joe's surviving son as a lost soul, wandering in the wilderness, always held in the loving hand of his doting and devoted father. His daughter, Naomi's, Twitter thread amplified the story, and it's a good one.
This is how it starts:
Though the whole world knows his name, no one knows who he is. Here's a thread on my dad, Hunter Biden - free of charge to the taxpayers and free of the corrosive influence of power-at-all-costs politics. The truth of a man filled with love, integrity, and human struggles
It's a fine read. It puts our President to shame.... or it would if that word existed for him.
Perhaps, while our President is babbling on, Joe could accept a phone call from one of his grandkids, the calls he never lets go to voice mail.
Do you think that our President knows the names of his grandkids, let alone has them in his phone?
Tuesday, October 20, 2020
Voted!

I VOTED IN PIMA COUNTY sticker.









