When it comes to weddings, in my personal opinion, the bride and groom have the final say. It's their wedding and they will do it how they want. When it came to my wedding, hubby and I did it how we wanted. My MIL did come to my fittings, but she was pretty hands-off (which I liked and wished she did more of with other aspects of our lives). Hope the bride and groom do it their way and create beautiful memories. Megan xxx
I think of them as celebrations and so long as whoever does the deed doesn't go on forever and put in a lot of false stuff, I don't think it matters. i know three people now who got the legal right to marry others. One the least expected of the lot but if it's what the couple want, I'm all for it. Finding the right person to marry when our kids got wed was tricky as they were out of churches but it worked out fine as one was a minister and the other had left the ministry. The main thing is the big celebration of the union as family and friends give their support through attendance
Oh please ... it should all be up to just the bride and groom! (And maybe a little to whomever is paying for the celebration). My oldest son is also an internet minister and my only complaint about the ceremony he conducted for his brother and new SIL is that it was too SHORT. (Including the rings and kiss it was only about 8 minutes.) He had some wonderful things to say to the couple and while my preference would have been to include God in the ceremony, it wasn't theirs and so I never questioned their choice on the "minister" or anything else. (Well, almost true ... I would have liked them to buy flowers for their mothers to wear ... but I only asked if there would be flowers and didn't bug them about it when they said no.) My son has officiated at numerous other marriages where the couples had no church affiliations and he puts a lot of time and thought into his ceremony.
Friends of ours asked a close friend to officiate. He got an internet license and really put a lot of though into what he said. I think that is such a cool way to go. We drove down to Olympia,WA and had a judge that my husband used to sail with say the words. Then we all went out to a fancy lunch and went home. It was nice. When did weddings become such a big deal? Why must the bride and groom be put under such pressure?
Thirty years ago, my husband and I had our best friend, the Mailorder Minister, as we called him, perform our wedding ceremony. We wrote our vows and he officiated. Our parents were wonderful and the ceremony was in my mother & father's back yard with our closest friends in attendance. It was just like I wanted it to be, as it should have been. Tell your friends to enjoy their day and to do it their way.
I am preaching to the choir, it seems! The prospective bride is cheered by your words, denizens!a/b
Talk back to me! Word Verification is gone!