The event belongs to my little girl. My outfit is much less important than her guest list and her smiles and her wedding dress. Watching her try them on, in
There won't be any pictures of the clothes we selected; those will wait for 15 more days before they are revealed to the world. What I can share is the wonder of putting them on.
Neither of us is a shopper. Neither of us dresses up that often. We're t-shirt and sweat pants girls, though our guys tell us that we clean up quite nicely, thank you very much. We have stunning photographs of ourselves when we're all dolled up; they don't really look like our regular selves at all.
Maybe that's the ticket - the difference between the everyday and the extra-ordinary. Some women treat each day as if it were a fashion show. Others of us are just glad that we got there, primary parts covered, ready and willing to do our work. For us, what we look like is less important than what we accomplish; that's the way we were raised.
G'ma has no sense of style. Every time I relied upon her to create an outfit I could wear in public, I wondered why I had done so when I put it on. She's a wonderful woman with many talents; sartorial splendor is not one of them. My college wardrobe consisted of jeans, flannel shirts, and 2 formal dresses for the big frat parties to which TBG proudly escorted me. I took that same sense of style with me to graduate school.
Big Steve, driving me to campus one morning, commented on my "fancy clothes." I was assisting at a conference; I was wearing tailored navy polished cotton pants, a cream shell, and a gauzy over blouse. My shoes had a little heel. I felt elegant and educated and professional. "I like looking nice every once in a while," was my response to his less than welcoming remark. "Do you hear what you're saying?????" was his comeback.
I knew where he was going. We were part of the hippie clique at social work school; we wore overalls and had long long hair. Most of the other students were designer clad; we chose to concentrate on other things than our attire, probably because none of us had any extra cash to acquire more fabulous garments. My one dressy outfit, the one I wore that day, did just what BlogHer suggests: I felt fabulous and confident and ready to conquer the world.
To Big Steve, though, I looked nice every day. He thought my casual clothes were perfect. The fact that the outfit lifted my spirits was clouded in dissonance for him. The clothes don't make the man; they are irrelevant.
Not true. I tried to explain it to him all the way down Lake Shore Drive to Hyde Park. He wasn't buying it at all. The clothes didn't matter. I was shallow to think they did.
It was the mid-1970's, denizens. We were all very certain of everything back then.
I kept that conversation in the back of my mind for years. Everytime I put on a dressy outfit I marveled at the fact that I looked taller, almost statuesque..... even in flats. I wondered why I liked looking at myself in the mirror, all dolled up, hair lacquered, eyes painted..... who was that girl, anyway? Whatever she called herself, she was stylin' and I was admirin'.
When my daughter donned the dress she loved, her face changed. Her posture righted and her eyes sparkled. Her body relaxed as she stood there, elegant and comfortable and gorgeous. Absolutely gorgeous. Suddenly, all the wedding angst was gone. In its place were love and smiles and relief. She was ready to rock the world.
I have something in my closet that would make me happy to wear to the wedding. I felt no pressure when I shopped. I browsed the boutiques I like here in town until I found something that made me smile. I'll recount that adventure another time. Here, I'll tell you that when I put it on I felt the weight of the world lift from my shoulders.
Dressed like that, how could I have anything but the most wonderful time? I felt fabulous and confident.... and the outfit had a lot to do with it. I don't know why, and I don't care. Big Steve may be right, I may look nice every day. But on September 22, I'm going to look great and feel even better.
I can hardly wait.
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