tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2546626959391412613.post7356352544203647274..comments2024-03-28T12:12:29.813-07:00Comments on The Burrow: Changing the RulesAshleigh Burroughshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05790757220725900941noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2546626959391412613.post-38635756851639590692010-12-31T14:13:29.188-07:002010-12-31T14:13:29.188-07:00Circling and observing and wondering and....
a/bCircling and observing and wondering and....<br />a/bAshleigh Burroughshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05790757220725900941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2546626959391412613.post-88461537041309935282010-12-31T08:07:15.112-07:002010-12-31T08:07:15.112-07:00Oh Patsy Cline... When I first heard her voice I t...Oh Patsy Cline... When I first heard her voice I thought, <em>Now, that's a <a href="http://thenightlight.blogspot.com/2005/01/listen-theyre-singing.html" rel="nofollow">singer with IT</a>...</em> I was astonished when I found out she was a country-music star: where were the banjos and washboards? (I was pretty young then.)<br /><br />People are fuss-budgets, no two ways about it. (I remember a poem once encountered in a massive book of jokes, riddles, etc.: "As a rule/Man is a fool./When it's hot/He wants it cool./When it's cool/He wants it hot --/Always wanting/What is not.") In that impulse to fix things which often are not broken at all, or at least which are not broken in any way which <em>matters</em>, is a whole heap o' misery. <br /><br />On the other hand...<br /><br />I once wrote a memoir of the couple of years during which my Dad was dying of cancer. In it, I classified family members as falling into one of two general camps: fixers and sitters. I have no confidence that those of us who were sitters, and stubborn about it, were any "better" or "more helpful" than the manic fixers.<br /><br />On the specific relationship topics you're circling in this post, I will say only that (a) I wish they were all unfamiliar experiences to me, but (b) they are not.JEShttp://johnesimpson.com/noreply@blogger.com