tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2546626959391412613.post6191260042938891428..comments2024-03-28T12:12:29.813-07:00Comments on The Burrow: Do We Tell G'ma?Ashleigh Burroughshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05790757220725900941noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2546626959391412613.post-91432547190186816902012-12-04T14:00:12.975-07:002012-12-04T14:00:12.975-07:00I'll add my vote to the 'no need to tell h...I'll add my vote to the 'no need to tell her' side of the tally. I've (twice) observed tragic news given (with the best of intention and heart) to two different family members - each had only pools of active linear memory. Both times the news instigated brief but terrible sadness. Honesty is always ideal, but I like to think hard truths are best gently weighed against necessity and outcome... <br /><br />If you share the news with her she will, granted, quickly forget any pain it visits on her heart. You on the other hand will not.<br />IMSO it's part of the equation to consider how sharing such news will impact you, the news giver. It's devastating to see one you love hurt, even fleetingly.<br /><br />I'm so glad I've found my way to your writings - inspiration AND humor!<br /><br />IssyWoman Seeking Centerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14940928888290866843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2546626959391412613.post-66419699886203785592012-12-04T10:28:04.405-07:002012-12-04T10:28:04.405-07:00I wouldn't tell her. What's the point? Eve...I wouldn't tell her. What's the point? Even if she does remember the woman, telling her will not make her any happier, and she will not remember it the next day or so. If she mentions the sister-in-law, tell her the truth, otherwise, keep quiet.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2546626959391412613.post-39163965158948796982012-12-03T17:22:02.317-07:002012-12-03T17:22:02.317-07:00Oh, readers, I love you so. Perhaps we are self-s...Oh, readers, I love you so. Perhaps we are self-selected and we all agree and that's why we are all here in The Burrow, but I don't care. It's nice to have my biases reinforced!<br /><br />You are right, JES, and you made me laugh at the same time. Thanks, Maggie, for the "professional" advice; being around the issue makes you a pro in my book. as always, Megan and Liz and Sharon, you see into my heart.<br /><br />I do so love the blogosphere<3<br />a/bAshleigh Burroughshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05790757220725900941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2546626959391412613.post-4600369763557621772012-12-03T12:25:13.764-07:002012-12-03T12:25:13.764-07:00Well, my knee-jerk response to almost every diffic...Well, my knee-jerk response to almost every difficulty is to follow the path of least resistance. That tells me not to mention it. If G'Ma has a favorite album of old photos lying around, and if you haven't gone through it with her lately, AND if there are any photos of Lilly therein -- a lot of ifs! -- you might consider using that to trigger a question from her: <em>And who is this again?</em> Which could lead into the gentle report of Lilly's passing.<br /><br />Otherwise, I'm thinking: if you won't tell her about the skirt, there's probably no reason to mention the sister.JEShttp://johnesimpson.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2546626959391412613.post-25146215328133780852012-12-03T11:22:45.872-07:002012-12-03T11:22:45.872-07:00Hi Ashleigh,
I volunteer at a nursing home each w...Hi Ashleigh,<br /><br />I volunteer at a nursing home each week when I am not working and this is a common issue that many families face. My biggest concern is will it agitate or upset her when you do share the news? If the answer is yes, then I probably would not tell her. Otherwise, the decision is really up to you. However, I do have to agree with the others and most likely would not tell her. I hope this helps:)<br /><br />MaggieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2546626959391412613.post-398315109266732872012-12-03T10:13:30.995-07:002012-12-03T10:13:30.995-07:00Me three. It would serve no point. From what you&#...Me three. It would serve no point. From what you've said in this post, it sounds like she is losing more and more memory. How sad for all of you. If you can keep something happy, do it.ForestGirlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2546626959391412613.post-17271525495370216582012-12-03T07:55:55.544-07:002012-12-03T07:55:55.544-07:00I say no too. It's not like she was close to h...I say no too. It's not like she was close to her. She's not going to remembet and it's just something else she has to process. <br /><br />Was reading this in my boring staff meeting. Running to another meeting.<br /><br />Happy Monday.<br /><br /><br />Megan xxxMShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02622415628314992252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2546626959391412613.post-49222479671812018592012-12-03T06:57:01.835-07:002012-12-03T06:57:01.835-07:00I see no point in telling her. I vote with you.....I see no point in telling her. I vote with you...go for happy, not unhappy.Sharon Kayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09090039934805352441noreply@blogger.com